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Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi S Famous Investigations Of Optimal Experience Have Revealed That What Makes An Experience Genuinely Satisfying Is A State Of Consciousness Called Flow During Flow, People Typically Experience Deep Enjoyment, Creativity, And A Total Involvement With Life In This New Edition Of His Groundbreaking Classic Work, Csikszentmihalyi Demonstrates The Ways This Positive State Can Be Controlled, Not Just Left To Chance Flow The Psychology Of Optimal Experience Teaches How, By Ordering The Information That Enters Our Consciousness, We Can Discover True Happiness And Greatly Improve The Quality Of Our Lives Very interesting book I admit I was skeptical earlier with some pseudo scientific terminology, but I become convinced the I read Discusses the nature of happiness, by becoming totally focused in an action thought, and a less of self consciousness Very interesting indeed. My notes, including liberal use of direct quotes 8 elements of enjoyment 1 confront challenging but completable tasks 2 concentration 3 clear goals 4 immediate feedback 5 deep, effortless involvement lack of awareness of worries and frustrations 6 sense of control over actions 7 concern for self disappears paradoxically awareness of self is heightened immediately after flow 8 sense of duration of time is altered5 elements of happy teenagers growing up 1 clarity 2 centering parents interest in the child in that moment 3 choice 4 commitment 5 challenge parents provide appropriate challenges for their childrenQuadrants of flow Goal High challenge, high skillLow challenge, high skill boredomLow skill, high challenge anxietyRoger Callois Four kinds of play 1 agon competition 2 alea games of chance 3 ilinx vetigo, disorienting pleasures 4 mimicryYoga 1 yama restraint 2 niyama obedience 3 asana sitting 4 pranayama breath control 5 pratyahara withdrawal ability to see, feel, and hear at will 6 dharana holding on concentrate on single stimulus opp of 5 7 dhyana intense meditation sans external object of 6 8 samadhi self collectednessThe goal of loss of self is opposite of flow, but the first 7 steps yield greater self control similar to flow These 7 steps can be applied in various contexts, with other ultimate goals.Music, Food Consume passively or savor actively Memorize facts not to memorize, but to gain understanding and contextualized knowledge.Applying scientific reasoning, mathematical thinking, is viewed as a pleasurable game by experts in the field How can I encourage this intrinsic enjoyment in my students Question The Bible states that work is a punishment for sin Is our current ability to specialize jobs a gift of systemic cooperation Maybe for fortunate people like me who love my work, but certainly not for everyone.Transformational not regressive coping If one operates with unselfconscious assurance, and remains open to the environment and involved in it, a solution is likely to emerge Autotelic self 1 Setting goals 2 Becoming immersed in the activity 3 Paying attention to what is happening 4 Learning to enjoy immediate experienceHow does someone stay relaxed under extreme pressure There is nothing to it We don t get upset because we believe that our life is in God s hands, and whatever He decides will be fine with us Significant childhood pain can lead to a well adjusted adult s lifelong theme of service to correct the injustice.This book appears to assume an intrapersonal learning style NF This is quite possibly the most important book I have ever read Consider it the official Handbook on Happiness Part science and part philosophy, it essentially defines happiness itself, then proceeds to explain in detail how we can attain it every waking moment of our lives hypothetically at least Although far from a light read, I found the intense mental concentration the book demanded to be almost physically pleasurable yes, I am in fact the very definition of a nerd When I closed the book, I immediately begged my dad for his extra copy just so I could go back through and underline the passages I will need to revisit from now until the day I die If you are unhappy, anxious, or generally dissatisfied with the direction of your life, follow this pattern 1 read the book s scientific assessment of happiness or at least my summary below , 2 determine what element of flow is missing in your life, and 3 fix it Thanks to this reading experience, I m on to step 3 now I feel enlightened with a unique self understanding, convinced of the possibility of attaining happiness, and determined to eventually experience constant flow If you don t have the time and energy the book requires, read my gross oversimplification of Mr C s genius below WHAT IS HAPPINESS A human being experiences happiness to the extent that he can mentally order his consciousness and fight off chaos what Mr C refers to as psychic entropy This explains why animals and people who fight daily for their own basic survival experience almost constant flow The meaning of their lives, the focus of their energy, is simple It might not be enjoyable, but it s simple We spoiled, idle folk are the ones whining on couches about the lack of fulfillment and happiness in our lives Why Because we are overwhelmed by so many complicated concerns that we don t know where to focus our psychic energy.WHAT IS FLOW Here s the crux of the book While it examines overall happiness briefly, it is concerned with how to truly enjoy the everyday moments of life Mr C refers to the process of losing yourself and experiencing Buddha like enlightenment self actualization as a state of flow Everyone from professional athletes to chess masters and punk street kids recalls a moment in which they seemed to disappear as a person, entirely immersed in the activity in which they were engaged this differs greatly from drug use and other chemically altering activities, which are temporary fixes for those desperately needing to experience flow Mr C collected data from various cultures, professions, socio economic conditions and stages of life, then discovered certain conditions present during flow, including 1 engagement in an activity that is both challenging and attainable if the activity is too easy, we re bored if it s too difficult, we re anxious 2 the ability to keep concentration focused on the activity so THAT S the problem I had as a stay at home mom 3 clearly defined goals that are within the individual s control winning the Pulitzer Prize is not a self contained goal, for example, because you personally do not choose who wins the Pulitzer 4 immediate feedback our psychic energy tends to atrophy without some verification we re on the right track 5 deep, effortless involvement in the activity which removes from awareness the worries frustrations of everyday life during flow, you get lost in what you are doing because so much of your psychic energy is engaged 6 sense of control over your own actions of that fighting against chaos definition of happiness 7 non self conscious individualism paradoxically, you lose yourself in what you are doing and eliminate all self criticism, yet when the process is complete you are actually a complex individual Mr C states that loss of self consciousness does not involve a loss of the self, and certainly not a loss of consciousness, but rather, only a loss of consciousness OF the self THIS IS SO TRUE As an actress and musician, my worst performances are always the ones in which I am self conscious about the performance I am giving There is no room for selfish awareness in flow 8 some alteration of time either hours feel like minutes or vice versa According to Mr C, the reason most of us classify ourselves as unhappy is that we keep widening the gap between jobs that are necessary but unpleasant, and leisure pursuits that are enjoyable but have little complexity To fill free time with activities that require concentration, that increase skills, that lead to a development of the self, is not the same as killing time by watching television or taking recreational drugs Once we learn to replicate these essential characteristics of flow, Mr C contends that we can experience flow in every daily activity whether performing brain surgery or washing the dishes I especially appreciated the sections on how to create a meaningful flow relationship with your children, as well as his postulations about the flow experience through writing His ideas on the correlation between attention disorders and depression are amazing Only one downer he occasionally spoke in a deprecating and somewhat condescending manner about religion As a scientifically minded individual who finds great purpose and opportunities in my faith, I found his comments too generalized Other than that, he was intoxicatingly brilliant We can experience flow in our home, work, personal relationships, daily activities, everything We just glance down the list, discover what condition is missing, and get creative When situations challenge our happiness, we address the problem in a healthy, proactive way and again free up our psychic energy to work toward our life goals Bottom line those who control their inner experience determine their quality of life.Preach it FAVORITE QUOTES There are literally thousands of self help books in print explaining how to get rich, powerful, loved, or slim Yet even if their advice were to work, what would be the result afterward in the unlikely event that one did turn into a slim, well loved, powerful millionaire Usually what happens is that the person finds himself back at square one, with a new list of wishes, just as dissatisfied as before What would really satisfy people is not getting slim or rich, but feeling good about their lives In the quest for happiness, partial solutions don t work.Contrary to the myths mankind has created to reassure itself, the universe was not created to answer our needs A meteorite on a collision course with New York City might be obeying all the laws of the universe, but it would still be a damn nuisance.There is no inherent problem in our desire to escalate our goals, as long as we enjoy the struggle along the way.Mowing the lawn or waiting in a dentist s office can become enjoyable provided one restructures the activity by providing goals, rules, and the other elements of enjoyment The purpose of flow is to keep on flowing, not looking for a peak or utopia but staying in the flow It is a self communication a mountain climber on flow Subjective experience is not just one of the dimensions of life, it is life itself Material conditions are secondary.Of all the virtues we can learn no trait is useful, essential for survival, and likely to improve the quality of life than the ability to transform adversity into an enjoyable challenge.Goals justify the effort they demand at the outset, but later it is the effort that justifies the goal.If goals are well chosen, and if we have the courage to abide by them despite opposition, we shall be so focused on the actions and events around us that we won t have the time to be unhappy. You know that uncle you have, who doesn t have any kids and loves to talk your ear off every Thanksgiving, and he s a really nice guy, and he seems to know a lot of stuff, but when you look up the stuff he quotes he seems to always have it a bit off, and he never seems to have a book with him so maybe he did all his reading when he was young, but there s no point calling bullshit on him, and you get a sense he s not really listening anyway well, this book is written by that guy This could have been an excellent 10 000 words, but I m now 3 chapters in without any idea of what his plan is and how he can tell one chapter or sub chapter from the next.I get what Flow is and it s great and I m all in But this is diarrhea.